If you untick this option, these slurs will always be across both staves (though this can give less good results in some places — you might prefer to leave this Option ticked and to adjust the problematic slurs in Engrave Mode).
Engraving Options > Slurs > Cross-staf Slurs > Determine curvature…
For the vertical collision, we’re probably in a case like described here:
To fix it, you can slightly reduce the vertical margins, slightly reduce the top music frame margin, and raise the top of the music frame a little in the default template. With these three adjustments, I can get 100% fill on this page, and there’s no collision anymore:
