to awnser my own question, and to all who are interested:
Audiogridder works!!!
One thing:
does anybody know how to add Waves stuff to Audiogridder on MAC?
I cant find the actual plugins, only the shells and bundles but they fail during scanning
INFO:
You can run (most) VST2, AU and VST3 plugins within Cubase in Apple Silicon Native Mode!
Install Audiogridder on the same computer (local).
Open the app (server) and scan…
Set the video in settings to local.
Then in CB open the plugin (effect or instr) and rock!
Its a bit buggy but it really works…
I just open the plugin i need, do my work, bounce to audio and quite Audio Gridder.
You can also actually install the server app on another machine and run through network ofcourse, for free extra cpu if you have an extra computer.
Screen if from working AU plugin in Cubase 13 Apple Native Mode